What Becomes of the Broken Hearted....

This past week I've been a bit of a "Dr. Lara". Two of my friends are in relationships that aren't right for them. They know they ought to end it but fear is getting in the way. They're afraid that it isn't the Spirit guiding them, they're afraid of hurting the other person, they're afraid of being alone. I wish they could have an eternal perspective. Not all relationships are meant to end in marriage and when that becomes clear for both practical and personal reasons it is time to move on. You aren't sparing anyone pain or inconvenience by dragging out the process, you're only compounding it. It is much better to let that person go and progress on their own path. The Lord will see to their needs and guide them to someone who will make them happy. You aren't really hurting them and the grand scheme of things, you're helping them along. Do not kid yourselves that putting off the end is sparing the other person grief, the reality is that you do not want to feel the pain of breaking up with that person --this is selfishness, if you were really concerned about the other's well being, you would end it rather than lead them on. I wish they could understand that it is worth it to find someone right for you and to not settle. Sometimes we young, single mormons get so focused on the act of getting married, that we forget about the marriage. The Lord would not have us marry someone we are not happy with, but He'll let us do it if we choose to because we have our agency. The marriage that Heavenly Father would have for us is one with someone we truly delight in, respect, and admire...someone who struggles when we struggle and someone he we want to be with through thick and thin. A temple marriage is not a band-aid or an escape from life's hardships or relationship difficulties had while dating. A temple marriage should be entered into by it's own merit and by no other motive--two people who love each other and are ready to build a life together. Not from social, family or personal pressure, out of desperation or any other emotion...but out of love and the peaceful assurance that it is the will of God. It is worth it, it is so worth it! Do not make such decisions lightly, do not throw away your lives on a relationship that is not worthy of either partner. Be patient, trust the Heavenly Father has a plan for you and will guide you to the best person for you and you will know then that it is right and all the suffering and trial before will be a blessing. Trust in the Atonement that it can heal you and your former partner, because it will if you let. Trust in yourself and the Spirit's promptings, when you know something is right do it!--without equivocation just do it then! Trust in Him who loves you most, He really will guide you for your own good and happiness,

Read this: Elder Holland's talk "Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence" which every young single or married adult should read

Oh I wonder...